The interesting thing about afternoon session is that I apparently an extra 2 hours and 15 minutes everyday! Dun ask me how I came out with this figure... I didn't. April's mom did some form of calculation from the time we leave home to the time we return and this figure popped out.
Pros of Afternoon Session:
1) Can sleep in later... although it's only an extra 1 and the half hour more...
2) Can plan driving lessons in the mornings... no peak hour charge
3) Visit the bank in the morning
Cons of Afternoon Session:
1) Only knock off at 7 plus... Can only make it for the 9 pm gym class (as compared to the 6.30 one last year)
2) Cannot plan facials, body treatments, massages or hair treatment on week nights (last appoint at 6.30 or 7 pm)
3) Spend weekends going for facials, body treatments, massages or hair treatment (make my weekends very cramp with things to do) - not enough time to relax during the weekends
4) Cannot plan tuition on week nights - not enough time to relax during the weekends
5) Cannot stay back to mark books. Can only come in earlier the next day (doesn't feel any different from morning session)
6) Cannot come back earlier to watch my 7 pm Korean dramas on Channel U - need to resort to taping (then have to stay up to clear tapes)
Verdict? I still prefer being in the morning session... Hopefully we can have a chance to go single session again... :(
Saturday, January 12
Tuesday, January 8
Now that I no longer have to study, I feel a lil bored at times... especially on Tues nites when I dun have to rush for classes any more.
Thank God for Facebook. I've been very entertained by my facebook lately... from superpoking to feeding my pets to petting other's pets! It's even more fun than friendster. There are a lot more applications to download and things to do online. When I first started, I got a lil frustrated. Now, I'm getting the hang of it so it's becoming more fun.
As for school, I'm starting to settle down and get into the work routine. But I'm still not running at full speed... more like 30 km/h. I think I have really rested during the Dec hols until I can't tune back in to school. :p
Hopefully, I'll be more settled as the year progresses...
Thank God for Facebook. I've been very entertained by my facebook lately... from superpoking to feeding my pets to petting other's pets! It's even more fun than friendster. There are a lot more applications to download and things to do online. When I first started, I got a lil frustrated. Now, I'm getting the hang of it so it's becoming more fun.
As for school, I'm starting to settle down and get into the work routine. But I'm still not running at full speed... more like 30 km/h. I think I have really rested during the Dec hols until I can't tune back in to school. :p
Hopefully, I'll be more settled as the year progresses...
Sunday, January 6
I've survived my first week in school!
I'm so glad to have survived my first week in school... even though it is a 3 day work week... guess I can't complain on that account.
I'm doing double English this year... while it may be tiring, I love it! Cos English is my pet subject. I have 2 classes to take care of, one is my form class, the other is my English class. However, since the form teacher is a Chinese teacher who does not teach the kids, I end up doing the form teacher duties for that class.
The kids I have this year are also very cute... very funny antics from them sometimes that brings a smile to your face. Think this year is definitely going to be a better year when it comes to the kids...
Other good news... my letter from SIM came so I can finally submit my application for emplacement. That means more $$$ for the work I am doing now and hooray to no more studying!
Actually... not quite true. My studying goals for 2008 is to get my driving license by June and then sign up Japanese classes. I'm currently looking for opportunities to teach in Japan next year so they might come in handy.
Hopefully, in 2009, I get an overseas teaching opportunity... keeping my fingers crossed till then! In the meanwhile, I must survive 2008 first!
I'm doing double English this year... while it may be tiring, I love it! Cos English is my pet subject. I have 2 classes to take care of, one is my form class, the other is my English class. However, since the form teacher is a Chinese teacher who does not teach the kids, I end up doing the form teacher duties for that class.
The kids I have this year are also very cute... very funny antics from them sometimes that brings a smile to your face. Think this year is definitely going to be a better year when it comes to the kids...
Other good news... my letter from SIM came so I can finally submit my application for emplacement. That means more $$$ for the work I am doing now and hooray to no more studying!
Actually... not quite true. My studying goals for 2008 is to get my driving license by June and then sign up Japanese classes. I'm currently looking for opportunities to teach in Japan next year so they might come in handy.
Hopefully, in 2009, I get an overseas teaching opportunity... keeping my fingers crossed till then! In the meanwhile, I must survive 2008 first!
Tuesday, January 1
What a way to start the new year!
Since I've gone back to school, I've been nursing a really nasty flu bug. It has left me coughing, sneezing and feverish since last Thursday.
Yesterday, while everyone was at my aunt's place counting down to the new year, I was counting down alone at home. Didn't want to be anywhere.
Tomorrow school starts... pray for good health and less stress and MCs this year...
Yesterday, while everyone was at my aunt's place counting down to the new year, I was counting down alone at home. Didn't want to be anywhere.
Tomorrow school starts... pray for good health and less stress and MCs this year...
Wednesday, December 26
Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.
The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.
Every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window. The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.
The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.
As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagi ne the picturesque scene. One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by.
Although the other man couldn't hear the band - he could see it. In his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Days and weeks passed.
One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.
As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.
Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window.
The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall. She said, 'Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.'
Epilogue: There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations. Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled. If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can' t buy.
The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.
Every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window. The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.
The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.
As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagi ne the picturesque scene. One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by.
Although the other man couldn't hear the band - he could see it. In his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Days and weeks passed.
One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.
As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.
Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window.
The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall. She said, 'Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.'
Epilogue: There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations. Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled. If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can' t buy.
Tuesday, December 18
Drop in call bookings as higher taxi fares kick in
By Wong Mun Wai, Channel NewsAsia
Singapore's largest taxi operator, ComfortDelGro, has seen a drop in call bookings during the morning peak hours, largely due to the higher taxi fares which kicked in on Monday. However, the company has described this as an expected knee-jerk reaction.
The higher fares hit commuters the hardest during the peak hours. Commuters like Benson An, who takes the taxi almost four times a week from home to work said that the higher fares will add another 10 per cent to his transport expenses. Thus, he said that he would try to reduce his cab trips by at least 50 per cent and turn to buses or the MRT when he travels.
With more commuters opting for an alternative mode of transport, ComfortDelgro revealed that a decrease of 20 per cent in call bookings was recorded on Monday morning, compared to last Monday. The higher fees have also affected other taxi operators. Singapore's second-largest taxi operator, SMRT, which has yet to increase its fares, has also reported a drop in call bookings. It received 200 fewer calls between 7am and 9am, compared to last Monday.
Among the changes announced by ComfortDelgro was the reduction of peak hour booking fees from S$4 to S$3.50 in order to encourage more call bookings. During off-peak hours, flagging down a Comfort taxi will now cost commuters some 10 per cent more. Meanwhile, those travelling during peak hours will now pay between 18 and 49 per cent higher. Also, instead of a S$2 flat rate for the morning and evening peak hour surcharge, it has been revised to 35 per cent of the metered fare.
While some taxi drivers wonder if passengers will still take cabs like before, one cabbie predicted that he could possibly earn S$50 more a day. Meanwhile, others said it was too early to expect a rise in earnings and will only be able to tell if they are making profits or losses after three days to a week. Other taxi companies that will be raising their fares by Christmas are SMRT, Trans-cab, Premier and SMART Cab. - CNA/vm
It was raining cats and dogs yesterday so I had to take a cab from Phillip Street to Woodslands Drive 60. Started waiting for a at 4.30 pm cos I had to be in Woodlands by 5.15 pm. By 4.50 pm, no cabs came so I started calling. All lines were engaged and as for the only one I could get through (SMART cab), no cabs responded.
At that time, a Comfort cab came so I boarded. By the time I got to Woodlands, my cab fare was $28.40!!!! ^%$^$^#%$
I never thought I had to pay so much was cab! I have never in my life paid so much!
Break down of the cab fare:
Fare Charge: $18.80
CBD Charge: $3
Peak Hour: $6.60 (that's the 35%)
Verdict: I am so not going to take a cab during peak hours unless my life depends on it! @^%@^%$#
Singapore's largest taxi operator, ComfortDelGro, has seen a drop in call bookings during the morning peak hours, largely due to the higher taxi fares which kicked in on Monday. However, the company has described this as an expected knee-jerk reaction.
The higher fares hit commuters the hardest during the peak hours. Commuters like Benson An, who takes the taxi almost four times a week from home to work said that the higher fares will add another 10 per cent to his transport expenses. Thus, he said that he would try to reduce his cab trips by at least 50 per cent and turn to buses or the MRT when he travels.
With more commuters opting for an alternative mode of transport, ComfortDelgro revealed that a decrease of 20 per cent in call bookings was recorded on Monday morning, compared to last Monday. The higher fees have also affected other taxi operators. Singapore's second-largest taxi operator, SMRT, which has yet to increase its fares, has also reported a drop in call bookings. It received 200 fewer calls between 7am and 9am, compared to last Monday.
Among the changes announced by ComfortDelgro was the reduction of peak hour booking fees from S$4 to S$3.50 in order to encourage more call bookings. During off-peak hours, flagging down a Comfort taxi will now cost commuters some 10 per cent more. Meanwhile, those travelling during peak hours will now pay between 18 and 49 per cent higher. Also, instead of a S$2 flat rate for the morning and evening peak hour surcharge, it has been revised to 35 per cent of the metered fare.
While some taxi drivers wonder if passengers will still take cabs like before, one cabbie predicted that he could possibly earn S$50 more a day. Meanwhile, others said it was too early to expect a rise in earnings and will only be able to tell if they are making profits or losses after three days to a week. Other taxi companies that will be raising their fares by Christmas are SMRT, Trans-cab, Premier and SMART Cab. - CNA/vm
It was raining cats and dogs yesterday so I had to take a cab from Phillip Street to Woodslands Drive 60. Started waiting for a at 4.30 pm cos I had to be in Woodlands by 5.15 pm. By 4.50 pm, no cabs came so I started calling. All lines were engaged and as for the only one I could get through (SMART cab), no cabs responded.
At that time, a Comfort cab came so I boarded. By the time I got to Woodlands, my cab fare was $28.40!!!! ^%$^$^#%$
I never thought I had to pay so much was cab! I have never in my life paid so much!
Break down of the cab fare:
Fare Charge: $18.80
CBD Charge: $3
Peak Hour: $6.60 (that's the 35%)
Verdict: I am so not going to take a cab during peak hours unless my life depends on it! @^%@^%$#
Lessons in Logic
If your father is a poor man, it is your fate
But, if your father-in-law is a poor man, it's your stupidity.
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I was born intelligent - education ruined me.
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Practice makes perfect..... But nobody's perfect.....
So why practice?
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If it's true that we are here to help others,
then what exactly are the others here for?
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Since light travels faster than sound,
people appear bright until you hear them speak.
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How come 'abbreviated' is such a long word?
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Money is not everything.
There's Mastercard & Visa.
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One should love animals. They are so tasty.
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Behind every successful man, there is a woman
And behind every unsuccessful man, there are two.
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Every man should marry.
After all, happiness is not the only thing in life.
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The wise never marry.
And when they marry they become otherwise.
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Success is a relative term.
It brings so many relatives.
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Never put off the work till tomorrow what you can put off today.
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'Your future depends on your dreams'
So go to sleep!
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There should be a better way to start a day
Than waking up every morning
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'Hard work never killed anybody'
But why take the risk?
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'Work fascinates me'
I can look at it for hours
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God made relatives;
Thank God we can choose our friends.
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The more you learn, the more you know.
The more you know, the more you forget.
The more you forget, the less you know.
So... why learn?
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A bus station is where a bus stops.
A train station is where a train stops.
On my desk, I have a work station....
what more can I say........
But, if your father-in-law is a poor man, it's your stupidity.
............ ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... .....
I was born intelligent - education ruined me.
............ ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... .....
Practice makes perfect..... But nobody's perfect.....
So why practice?
............ ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... .....
If it's true that we are here to help others,
then what exactly are the others here for?
............ ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... .....
Since light travels faster than sound,
people appear bright until you hear them speak.
............ ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... .....
How come 'abbreviated' is such a long word?
............ ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... .....
Money is not everything.
There's Mastercard & Visa.
............ ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... .....
One should love animals. They are so tasty.
............ ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... .....
Behind every successful man, there is a woman
And behind every unsuccessful man, there are two.
............ ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... .....
Every man should marry.
After all, happiness is not the only thing in life.
............ ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... .....
The wise never marry.
And when they marry they become otherwise.
............ ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... .....
Success is a relative term.
It brings so many relatives.
............ ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... .....
Never put off the work till tomorrow what you can put off today.
............ ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... .....
'Your future depends on your dreams'
So go to sleep!
............ ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... .....
There should be a better way to start a day
Than waking up every morning
............ ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... .....
'Hard work never killed anybody'
But why take the risk?
............ ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... .....
'Work fascinates me'
I can look at it for hours
............ ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... .....
God made relatives;
Thank God we can choose our friends.
............ ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... .....
The more you learn, the more you know.
The more you know, the more you forget.
The more you forget, the less you know.
So... why learn?
............ ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... ......... .....
A bus station is where a bus stops.
A train station is where a train stops.
On my desk, I have a work station....
what more can I say........
Thursday, December 13
7 year itch?
I've heard of 7 year itch in marriages but 7 year itch in teaching?
I'm experiencing that right now where after 7 years, I kinda dunno what I want out of my career. I've tried the leadership track where I've covered HOD duties for the last 2 years. Frankly, I gotta admit I like the challenge of the work... appeals to the control freak in me. But it's very tiring and sometimes, I'm not too sure if it's all worth it. My health has also suffered as a result of the stress and I've been advised by my doctors (note the plural use!) to watch it and take it easy. They have been nagging at me for the last 2 years!
Lately, seeing my friend and mentor end up in hospital due to a recurring tumour has really put a wake-up call to the advice I've previously taken for granted. I'm really thinking about this very carefully as I really dun hope to have the stress act up strangely in my body, causing cancers or heart diseases.
Maybe it's time to really think about my Plan B in teaching aka teaching English overseas. I've dreamt of it for 7 years and maybe it's time to consider it as a real option?
I've been searching and it seems like Korea comes highly recommended. Maybe it great for the Korean Drama freak in me! Haha....
Must mull and stew over this carefully with much prayers! Plus, I have to clear my exams this time round so I can graduate first... otherwise, it's still poofs of dreams...
I'm experiencing that right now where after 7 years, I kinda dunno what I want out of my career. I've tried the leadership track where I've covered HOD duties for the last 2 years. Frankly, I gotta admit I like the challenge of the work... appeals to the control freak in me. But it's very tiring and sometimes, I'm not too sure if it's all worth it. My health has also suffered as a result of the stress and I've been advised by my doctors (note the plural use!) to watch it and take it easy. They have been nagging at me for the last 2 years!
Lately, seeing my friend and mentor end up in hospital due to a recurring tumour has really put a wake-up call to the advice I've previously taken for granted. I'm really thinking about this very carefully as I really dun hope to have the stress act up strangely in my body, causing cancers or heart diseases.
Maybe it's time to really think about my Plan B in teaching aka teaching English overseas. I've dreamt of it for 7 years and maybe it's time to consider it as a real option?
I've been searching and it seems like Korea comes highly recommended. Maybe it great for the Korean Drama freak in me! Haha....
Must mull and stew over this carefully with much prayers! Plus, I have to clear my exams this time round so I can graduate first... otherwise, it's still poofs of dreams...
Saturday, December 8
Interesting words of wisdom! For the men out there... enjoy!
When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her.
David Bissonette
After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can't face each other, but still they stay together.
Sacha Guitry
By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher.
Socrates
Woman inspires us to great things, and prevents us from achieving them.
Anonymous (must be from a man! kekee...)
The great question... which I have not been able to answer... is, "What does a woman want?
Dumas
I had some words with my wife, and she had some paragraphs with me.
Sigmund Freud
Some people ask the secret of our long marriage. We take time to go to a restaurant two times a week. A little candlelight, dinner, soft music and dancing. She goes Tuesdays, I go Fridays.
Anonymous
There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking. It's called marriage.
Sam Kinison
I've had bad luck with both my wives. The first one left me, and the second one didn't.
James Holt McGavran
Two secrets to keep your marriage brimming:
1. Whenever you're wrong, admit it.
2. Whenever you're right, shut up.
Patrick Murray
The most effective way to remember your wife's birthday is to forget it once...
Nash
You know what I did before I married? Anything I wanted to.
Anonymous
My wife and I were happy for twenty years. Then we met.
Henny Youngman
A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong.
Rodney Dangerfield
A man inserted an ad in the classifieds: "Wife wanted".
Next day, he received a hundred letters.
They all said the same thing: "You can have mine."
First Guy (proudly): "My wife's an angel!"
Second Guy: "You're lucky, mine's still alive."
David Bissonette
After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can't face each other, but still they stay together.
Sacha Guitry
By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher.
Socrates
Woman inspires us to great things, and prevents us from achieving them.
Anonymous (must be from a man! kekee...)
The great question... which I have not been able to answer... is, "What does a woman want?
Dumas
I had some words with my wife, and she had some paragraphs with me.
Sigmund Freud
Some people ask the secret of our long marriage. We take time to go to a restaurant two times a week. A little candlelight, dinner, soft music and dancing. She goes Tuesdays, I go Fridays.
Anonymous
There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking. It's called marriage.
Sam Kinison
I've had bad luck with both my wives. The first one left me, and the second one didn't.
James Holt McGavran
Two secrets to keep your marriage brimming:
1. Whenever you're wrong, admit it.
2. Whenever you're right, shut up.
Patrick Murray
The most effective way to remember your wife's birthday is to forget it once...
Nash
You know what I did before I married? Anything I wanted to.
Anonymous
My wife and I were happy for twenty years. Then we met.
Henny Youngman
A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong.
Rodney Dangerfield
A man inserted an ad in the classifieds: "Wife wanted".
Next day, he received a hundred letters.
They all said the same thing: "You can have mine."
First Guy (proudly): "My wife's an angel!"
Second Guy: "You're lucky, mine's still alive."
Thursday, December 6
I just realised the depth of my OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder)! I just survive 24 hours without sleep just to complete my Korean Drama, Seo Dong Yo or Ballad of Seo Dong. I'm a real sucker for romantic drama... especially the epic ones.
The lead characters!
Synopsis of the story! Compliments of http://wiki.d-addicts.com/Ballad_Of_Suh_Dong
The SBS drama "Sodongyo", translated as "Sodong's Song", has much in common with "Jewel in the Palace". Both deal with similar themes: a success story of a lower class person rising to the top, a love that transcends social position, a secret of birth and a rivalry between main characters.
However, whereas "Jewel" is set in the Choson Kingdom (1392-1910), "Sodongyo" takes place in the Paekche Kingdom (18 B.C. - A.D 660), a first for a TV drama. Aside from the romance between a princess and a commoner, an interesting part of the drama is that it focuses on a fierce technology war almost 1,500 years ago.
The protagonist is Sodong, a commoner who strives to become a top technician. Sodong later became King Mu, the 30th king of Paekche as he was finally recognized as of royal birth.
The main background of the drama is Taehaksa, Paekche's prestigious institute of science technology. As it possessed and developed the most up-to-date technology at that time, the institute was always in danger of industrial espionage from other countries like the Koguryo Kingdom and the Silla Kingdom.
"The 21st century is an era of information technology. The viewers will be able to see not only the splendidly rich culture of the Paekche Kingdom but also their ancestors' passion for information technology, which is in line with today's trend", said the drama's writer Kim.
The drama also reveals the role of monks as industrial spies at that time, an aspect of monks in the past that is rarely focused 0n.
"Monks were the advance guards of intelligence war at that time. The leaders of the three countries made the best use of the monks' mobility as they were allowed to move freely from country to country on sacred missions", said Kim.
The drama also features a character who was originally from the Silla Kingdom (57 B.C. - A.D 935) but went over to Paekche as a child and smuggled himself into Taehaksa, concentrating on secretly getting out high-quality information over a long time.
Various agricultural technologies considered the most up-to-date at that time also appear in the drama.
In some episodes, to solve the problems of excessive dryness of the land, they released earthworms, and used ondol (hot floor) for the first time to decrease the humidity of homes.
"Sodongyo" is said to be one of Korea's oldest folk songs. According to Samgukyusa (The Memorabilia of the Three Kingdoms) from the Silla Kingdom, the song was written by Sodong, a commoner from the Paekche Kingdom. Hearing that Princess Sonhwa, a daughter of King Chinpyong of the Silla Kingdom was beautiful, he writes a song saying that the princess visits Sodong's room every night and spreads the song around. When her father hears the song, he condemns the princess to exile. Sodong picks her up and takes her to Paekche, and they become the royal couple of the country.
The lead characters!Synopsis of the story! Compliments of http://wiki.d-addicts.com/Ballad_Of_Suh_Dong
The SBS drama "Sodongyo", translated as "Sodong's Song", has much in common with "Jewel in the Palace". Both deal with similar themes: a success story of a lower class person rising to the top, a love that transcends social position, a secret of birth and a rivalry between main characters.
However, whereas "Jewel" is set in the Choson Kingdom (1392-1910), "Sodongyo" takes place in the Paekche Kingdom (18 B.C. - A.D 660), a first for a TV drama. Aside from the romance between a princess and a commoner, an interesting part of the drama is that it focuses on a fierce technology war almost 1,500 years ago.
The protagonist is Sodong, a commoner who strives to become a top technician. Sodong later became King Mu, the 30th king of Paekche as he was finally recognized as of royal birth.
The main background of the drama is Taehaksa, Paekche's prestigious institute of science technology. As it possessed and developed the most up-to-date technology at that time, the institute was always in danger of industrial espionage from other countries like the Koguryo Kingdom and the Silla Kingdom.
"The 21st century is an era of information technology. The viewers will be able to see not only the splendidly rich culture of the Paekche Kingdom but also their ancestors' passion for information technology, which is in line with today's trend", said the drama's writer Kim.
The drama also reveals the role of monks as industrial spies at that time, an aspect of monks in the past that is rarely focused 0n.
"Monks were the advance guards of intelligence war at that time. The leaders of the three countries made the best use of the monks' mobility as they were allowed to move freely from country to country on sacred missions", said Kim.
The drama also features a character who was originally from the Silla Kingdom (57 B.C. - A.D 935) but went over to Paekche as a child and smuggled himself into Taehaksa, concentrating on secretly getting out high-quality information over a long time.
Various agricultural technologies considered the most up-to-date at that time also appear in the drama.
In some episodes, to solve the problems of excessive dryness of the land, they released earthworms, and used ondol (hot floor) for the first time to decrease the humidity of homes.
"Sodongyo" is said to be one of Korea's oldest folk songs. According to Samgukyusa (The Memorabilia of the Three Kingdoms) from the Silla Kingdom, the song was written by Sodong, a commoner from the Paekche Kingdom. Hearing that Princess Sonhwa, a daughter of King Chinpyong of the Silla Kingdom was beautiful, he writes a song saying that the princess visits Sodong's room every night and spreads the song around. When her father hears the song, he condemns the princess to exile. Sodong picks her up and takes her to Paekche, and they become the royal couple of the country.
Monday, November 26
Yesterday was a day for sad news...
1) My England trip is cancelled because my poor friend is back in the hospital. She is undergoing surgery now. I hope she pulls through and God will annoint the surgeons with the skill to remove as much of the tumour as possible.
2) My back is in pain due to the strain from packing. Had to miss cell group, church and a colleague's wedding and spent my sunday lying in bed... what a bummer!
3) Depressing news... 5 Dragon boaters died in Cambodia. It's sad to see lives lost at their prime... I teared when I saw their bodies fished out of the river. That was the same river I travelled in almost 6 months ago. The only consolation was they died doing what they loved best... still, it's always sad to see young lives being lost...
2) My back is in pain due to the strain from packing. Had to miss cell group, church and a colleague's wedding and spent my sunday lying in bed... what a bummer!
3) Depressing news... 5 Dragon boaters died in Cambodia. It's sad to see lives lost at their prime... I teared when I saw their bodies fished out of the river. That was the same river I travelled in almost 6 months ago. The only consolation was they died doing what they loved best... still, it's always sad to see young lives being lost...
Sunday, November 18
Last weeks in school
My last week at school was complete madness...
Mon and Tues:
I was frantically preparing for my exams... last minute, as usual... It was so hectic studying last minute and trying to cramp everything till my mind was ready to explode...
Finally, when Tues came, I was so stressed that I could not study. I threw in the towel at 3.30pm and headed off to Holland V for some destress time. When I reached the exam venue, I was so nervous that I was shaking and the butterflies were literally flying out of my mouth... haha...
It might seem strange that I should be nervous after so many exams but I was really scared... I was afraid that I would not feel suficiently prepared. Before I began my paper, I prayed...
Lo and Behold, God really blessed me with wisdom to complete the paper. I was so relieved that I was able to answer the 4 questions which I selected. I'm not sure what kinda grades I would get but I'm keeping my fingers crossed that I'll pass...
If I pass, by God's grace, I would have finally graduated... no more studying... until I decide to begin my Master's.
Wed:
Mad rehearsal run in the morning, followed by me packing off to NUS's University Cultural Centre to prepare the logistics for our end of year musical. I was frezzing my butt off in the cold cold hall, while waiting for the man to set up the lights. After that, I had to lay out set.
Afternoon, when the kids arrived, it was mad rehearsal time. Mic test for 12 wireless mics, light and sound run, costume change run etc. By the time everything was over, it was 9 pm. I had to send the kiddos back to school. Luckily, my v kind colleague, Gabriel, got his father to drop me home. This helped to preserve some energy for Thurs.
Thurs:
Day of the actual end of year musical. I was so stressed that I slept v little. I went to bed at 3 am and got up at 5.30am. Went into school early and started work. When we reached UCC at 9 am, it was costume change and another round of lights and sound test. After that, we broke off for lunch and rest.
After lunch, it was time to get the kids dressed, ready etc and final peptalk before they appear on stage. When they performed, I cried backstage cos I was so proud of each and everyone of them. I felt like the expectant mom who has just completed her labour!
It was a pregnancy journey of sorts... the preparation, liaising with vendor and trainer, buying costumes, sewing costumes... I was the producer and part-director (along with my trainer, Faith, and Gabriel). I was really fearful before this cos to me, this was the year where the pupils were so unprepared. The kids were not disciplined and the harder we pushed them, the more they fell apart. I had v little confidence. But I must say, they proved me wrong. They rose to the occasion when it was needed the most (performance afternoon!).
Just when I thought I had loaded the lorry, sent things back to school and return the panels we loaned, the lorry had to break down... at the left lane, at a one way street junction... real bummer... Luckily, there was road closure so the police were able to help us direct the traffic as well while my collegue went to buy diesel. After that, the battery was too weak to pump the fuel so we had to call for the tow truck.
By the time everything was finished and we got back to school, it was already 9.15 pm. By the time I had my dinner, it was 10.30 pm - the latest time I ever had dinner.
Fri:
The most nostalgic day for my school - our closing ceremony. I started the day by making my children help me to clean the class. Then, we had prize giving day followed by class party. I was so tired that I ordered cheeseburger happy meal for all the kids and made them sit down with me to eat.
After that, we had the closing ceremony. When we sung the school song for the last time and folded the flag, I couldn't stop crying... Afterall, it was my second home for the last 4 and the half years... The funniest thing, I never wanted to be here in the first place. I was gearing up for a famous school so I could be proud to say I was teaching there... so shallow rite? Haha...
But in my last 4 and the half years, I realised that God had a purpose for me in my school. It was a school where the children really needed the teacher. The teacher was more than the one who taught them academic subjects, we were their surrogate of sorts. In extreme cases, I have told parents off as they have neglected their children.
My joys.... when my children improve their scores, behave well etc. My class is not a class where pass grades could be possible. By taking their marks and checking for progress, each child would be able to see their improvement and be motivated to studying harder.
Well... everything is in God's hands!
Mon and Tues:
I was frantically preparing for my exams... last minute, as usual... It was so hectic studying last minute and trying to cramp everything till my mind was ready to explode...
Finally, when Tues came, I was so stressed that I could not study. I threw in the towel at 3.30pm and headed off to Holland V for some destress time. When I reached the exam venue, I was so nervous that I was shaking and the butterflies were literally flying out of my mouth... haha...
It might seem strange that I should be nervous after so many exams but I was really scared... I was afraid that I would not feel suficiently prepared. Before I began my paper, I prayed...
Lo and Behold, God really blessed me with wisdom to complete the paper. I was so relieved that I was able to answer the 4 questions which I selected. I'm not sure what kinda grades I would get but I'm keeping my fingers crossed that I'll pass...
If I pass, by God's grace, I would have finally graduated... no more studying... until I decide to begin my Master's.
Wed:
Mad rehearsal run in the morning, followed by me packing off to NUS's University Cultural Centre to prepare the logistics for our end of year musical. I was frezzing my butt off in the cold cold hall, while waiting for the man to set up the lights. After that, I had to lay out set.
Afternoon, when the kids arrived, it was mad rehearsal time. Mic test for 12 wireless mics, light and sound run, costume change run etc. By the time everything was over, it was 9 pm. I had to send the kiddos back to school. Luckily, my v kind colleague, Gabriel, got his father to drop me home. This helped to preserve some energy for Thurs.
Thurs:
Day of the actual end of year musical. I was so stressed that I slept v little. I went to bed at 3 am and got up at 5.30am. Went into school early and started work. When we reached UCC at 9 am, it was costume change and another round of lights and sound test. After that, we broke off for lunch and rest.
After lunch, it was time to get the kids dressed, ready etc and final peptalk before they appear on stage. When they performed, I cried backstage cos I was so proud of each and everyone of them. I felt like the expectant mom who has just completed her labour!
It was a pregnancy journey of sorts... the preparation, liaising with vendor and trainer, buying costumes, sewing costumes... I was the producer and part-director (along with my trainer, Faith, and Gabriel). I was really fearful before this cos to me, this was the year where the pupils were so unprepared. The kids were not disciplined and the harder we pushed them, the more they fell apart. I had v little confidence. But I must say, they proved me wrong. They rose to the occasion when it was needed the most (performance afternoon!).
Just when I thought I had loaded the lorry, sent things back to school and return the panels we loaned, the lorry had to break down... at the left lane, at a one way street junction... real bummer... Luckily, there was road closure so the police were able to help us direct the traffic as well while my collegue went to buy diesel. After that, the battery was too weak to pump the fuel so we had to call for the tow truck.
By the time everything was finished and we got back to school, it was already 9.15 pm. By the time I had my dinner, it was 10.30 pm - the latest time I ever had dinner.
Fri:
The most nostalgic day for my school - our closing ceremony. I started the day by making my children help me to clean the class. Then, we had prize giving day followed by class party. I was so tired that I ordered cheeseburger happy meal for all the kids and made them sit down with me to eat.
After that, we had the closing ceremony. When we sung the school song for the last time and folded the flag, I couldn't stop crying... Afterall, it was my second home for the last 4 and the half years... The funniest thing, I never wanted to be here in the first place. I was gearing up for a famous school so I could be proud to say I was teaching there... so shallow rite? Haha...
But in my last 4 and the half years, I realised that God had a purpose for me in my school. It was a school where the children really needed the teacher. The teacher was more than the one who taught them academic subjects, we were their surrogate of sorts. In extreme cases, I have told parents off as they have neglected their children.
My joys.... when my children improve their scores, behave well etc. My class is not a class where pass grades could be possible. By taking their marks and checking for progress, each child would be able to see their improvement and be motivated to studying harder.
Well... everything is in God's hands!
Sunday, November 11
A Mayonnaise Jar Story
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large & empty mayonnaise jar & proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.
So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles & poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a box of sand & poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous "yes."
The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table & poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.
"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things -- your family, your children, your health, your friends, & your favorite passions -- things that if everything else was lost & only they remained, your life would still be full."
"The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, & your car. The sand is everything else -- the small stuff. "If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life."
"If you spend all your time & energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house & fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first, the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."
One of the students raised her hand & inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend."
This is a wonderful story and the timing is kinda timely... in the midst of being sick and flu-bugged... I really had a lot of time to think about a lot of things. There are lots to say about being frustrated. I believe God gives us moments of frustrations so we can really drop everything in life to re-prioritize what's important to us.
After resting the whole of yesterday, I realised that I've spent a lot of time on the "pebbles" and "sand" in my life and missed out the "golf balls".
At least, I am taking steps towards it. I've been spending a lot of time with my mom, with close friends and meeting them up for meals occassionally. I'm also going off to England in December with my close friend and teacher, to spend time with her and her family.
Indeed, where everything fails you in life, it is only your friends and family who will remain by your side, supporting you always. The last thing I want is to regret not spending enough time with them while I still can...
So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles & poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a box of sand & poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous "yes."
The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table & poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.
"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things -- your family, your children, your health, your friends, & your favorite passions -- things that if everything else was lost & only they remained, your life would still be full."
"The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, & your car. The sand is everything else -- the small stuff. "If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life."
"If you spend all your time & energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house & fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first, the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."
One of the students raised her hand & inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend."
This is a wonderful story and the timing is kinda timely... in the midst of being sick and flu-bugged... I really had a lot of time to think about a lot of things. There are lots to say about being frustrated. I believe God gives us moments of frustrations so we can really drop everything in life to re-prioritize what's important to us.
After resting the whole of yesterday, I realised that I've spent a lot of time on the "pebbles" and "sand" in my life and missed out the "golf balls".
At least, I am taking steps towards it. I've been spending a lot of time with my mom, with close friends and meeting them up for meals occassionally. I'm also going off to England in December with my close friend and teacher, to spend time with her and her family.
Indeed, where everything fails you in life, it is only your friends and family who will remain by your side, supporting you always. The last thing I want is to regret not spending enough time with them while I still can...
Thursday, November 8
Tis the season for good news!
Good news #1:
Best friend is having a baby gal, as I predicted! I feel so happy for her and I really hope the rest of the pregnancy months and the delivery will be smooth!
Good news #2:
My best buddy at work is getting married! 6 Dec 2008! She going to make a deposit for the ballroom this weekend! I feel so happy for her because she has been with her fiance for so many years and they are finally tying the knot!
In view of such great news, there is hope for me that there's still a special someone out there for me... kekee...
Good news #3:
After weeks of 'ding-donging', my end of the year travel plans are finally confirmed. I'll to off to England from 7 Dec to 17 Dec. I really can't wait to go!
I've always wanted to go but could not afford. I had to dump all money into my studies every semester. Now that I can, all thanks to my connect plan from the government, I am going! I really need a break after so many years of hard work and being holiday deprived... :(
This is my pseudo-graduation trip...considering that I will only know my results on late Dec. The best part of this is:
1) I'll be back in time for Bro's birthday!
2) I met angels who will sponsored accomodations and food for me... all I had to do was to pay for my air fare. Thank God for the blessing!
Good news #4:
I finally cleared all my assignments. Thank God for the favour in my studies and I was able to score well in my assignments. Despite it being a more difficult module, my grades were the highest of all my assignments in the last 4 years.
Now... I must bravely battle the exams next Tuesday. I am believing for a miracle to clear the paper so I can finally graduate!
I feel really blessed to be surrounded with good news... I'm believing in more to come!
Best friend is having a baby gal, as I predicted! I feel so happy for her and I really hope the rest of the pregnancy months and the delivery will be smooth!
Good news #2:
My best buddy at work is getting married! 6 Dec 2008! She going to make a deposit for the ballroom this weekend! I feel so happy for her because she has been with her fiance for so many years and they are finally tying the knot!
In view of such great news, there is hope for me that there's still a special someone out there for me... kekee...
Good news #3:
After weeks of 'ding-donging', my end of the year travel plans are finally confirmed. I'll to off to England from 7 Dec to 17 Dec. I really can't wait to go!
I've always wanted to go but could not afford. I had to dump all money into my studies every semester. Now that I can, all thanks to my connect plan from the government, I am going! I really need a break after so many years of hard work and being holiday deprived... :(
This is my pseudo-graduation trip...considering that I will only know my results on late Dec. The best part of this is:
1) I'll be back in time for Bro's birthday!
2) I met angels who will sponsored accomodations and food for me... all I had to do was to pay for my air fare. Thank God for the blessing!
Good news #4:
I finally cleared all my assignments. Thank God for the favour in my studies and I was able to score well in my assignments. Despite it being a more difficult module, my grades were the highest of all my assignments in the last 4 years.
Now... I must bravely battle the exams next Tuesday. I am believing for a miracle to clear the paper so I can finally graduate!
I feel really blessed to be surrounded with good news... I'm believing in more to come!
Sunday, October 28
I just realised that I haven't blogged in ages... since July to be precise...
My life so far...
Things have been extremely for me. Since I started lessons for my final semester, I haven't had time to continue my driving lessons so it my driving plans have to be put on hold. My studies this semester has been really tough! I barely have time to read my books. Plus the assignments have been tough. I have to read the books, digest the info before I can write. Half the time, I'm struggling cos I lack inspiration to write. Thankfully, by the grace of God, I survived my three assignments and have scored well for both.
Tis the season to be mommies... I have 4 colleagues who are pregnant and one has given birth already. Her little princess, Luvyna, is so cute! My best friend, who got married in June, is also pregnant now! So I'm looking forward to next March for my god-child to arrive. Someone for me to dote on...
Anyway, things are like roller-coaster for me... some good and some bad... just have to be positive and take the good with the bad... When in doubt, pray...
My life so far...
Things have been extremely for me. Since I started lessons for my final semester, I haven't had time to continue my driving lessons so it my driving plans have to be put on hold. My studies this semester has been really tough! I barely have time to read my books. Plus the assignments have been tough. I have to read the books, digest the info before I can write. Half the time, I'm struggling cos I lack inspiration to write. Thankfully, by the grace of God, I survived my three assignments and have scored well for both.
Tis the season to be mommies... I have 4 colleagues who are pregnant and one has given birth already. Her little princess, Luvyna, is so cute! My best friend, who got married in June, is also pregnant now! So I'm looking forward to next March for my god-child to arrive. Someone for me to dote on...
Anyway, things are like roller-coaster for me... some good and some bad... just have to be positive and take the good with the bad... When in doubt, pray...
Tuesday, July 10
Monday, July 9
the azanmig hmuan mnid
I cdnuolt blveiee taht I cluod aulaclty uesdnatnrd waht I was rdanieg. The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mnid, aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy. It dseno't mtaetr in waht oerdr the ltteres in a wrod are. The olny iproamtnt tihng is taht the frsit and lsat ltteer be in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taotl mses and you can sitll raed it whotuit a pboerlm. Tihs is bcuseae the huamn mnid deos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but the wrod as a wlohe. Azanmig huh? yaeh and I awlyas tghuhot slpeling was ipmorantt!
Thursday, July 5
the point about men and women
On my way home today, I was just thinking about gender issues... don't ask why. Strange topics like that just simply pop into my head...
The farnie thing about men and women today is while equality of the sexes is strongly advocated (I am a firm believer of this!), when it comes to relationship matters, most men and women suddenly revert to Neanderthal beliefs.
Issue #1
Most women still expect men to make the first move.
Woe to the gal who has the guts to go up to the man and ask him out. I am not saying then it is wrong for women to make the first move. In fact, I will applaud the gal who does so. You go, gal! I just simply dun believe in it cos it doesn't work for me personally. I have tried this out and got a rejection right in my face. Therefore, I firmly believe men have to make the first move.
Issue #2
Women expect equal partnership but they still expect pampering.
Frankly, women are probably the most oxymoronic creatures in this world. I'm also speaking for myself! We expect to be taken seriously, our views to be heard etc. However, we do have softer natures where we will and can cry out of sheer frustration at times. This are also the most frustrating moments for men.
Scenario 1 - Gal goes boo hoo hoo over her problems. She expects her man to comfort her. Unfortunately, being male, he simply just doesn't know what to do at moments like this. He just offer her a tissue and hold her, lest he says the wrong thing that can detonate a nuclear bomb. Gal rebutts, "Why can't you say something to comfort me? You're so insensitive!" The innocent guy just 'kena' for keeping quiet.
Scenario 2 - Gal goes boo hoo hoo over her problems. She wails and bitches about her problems. 'Superman to the rescue' will simply run down a list of solutions to solve her problem. Gal wails even more. "All I wanted was for you to comfort me? Couldn't you do that? You're so insensitive!" The poor guy also 'kena' for trying to be Superman.
Why do you think I say women are oxymoronic? Name me another animal who does these things. I can be Wonder Woman at work but when it comes to relationships, I am a 'xiao nu ren'. I need to be pampered. I still expect my guys to pay for dinner, I like my dates to drive, I like men who a good dressers etc.
Not that I am materialistic... paying for dates indicates the guy's interest in you. After all, if he is so stingy on dates, I really can't imagine the kind of boyfriend, husband and father he will be. Paying for dates and taking care of my welfare shows me how good a provider he is. It's a strong point when it comes to marriage.
As for driving... I have little patience with public transport. I take it everyday and it frustrates me. When you are carrying heavy things, bus stops always seem further than they actually are. When you need a cab, they never seem to appear. This is why I am learning how to drive now. I am so getting a car when I get my license. If I have a car and a license, shouldn't my date have one? How romantic is it for me to drive him around... Again, I am not stingy. It's simply a question of taking care of my welfare and providing for me - a strong point when it comes to marriage.
Revelation Moment: This explains why I still single. I have not found a man like that, unlike my 'just married' buddy. Her hubby is the ultimate provider - financially and emotionally. I just haven't had the good fortune of finding a good provider, capable of being a good boyfriend, husband and father. I'm still holding out for the guy for me. I'm done with relationships that don't have any marriage destination. It's simply a waste of time. Until I find the guy, I contented to simply live my life, my way.
It's so strange that I finally got all my thoughts sorted out when I was in Cambodia. Looking at the lives of the people there, it's a reminder that life is just too short to be wasted. I want my life to have value every waking moment. To me, a wasted life is one that had no positive impact on anyone's life... I want to be able to look back on my life, look at the things I've done and be pleased that there was a purpose to my existence in this life.
The farnie thing about men and women today is while equality of the sexes is strongly advocated (I am a firm believer of this!), when it comes to relationship matters, most men and women suddenly revert to Neanderthal beliefs.
Issue #1
Most women still expect men to make the first move.
Woe to the gal who has the guts to go up to the man and ask him out. I am not saying then it is wrong for women to make the first move. In fact, I will applaud the gal who does so. You go, gal! I just simply dun believe in it cos it doesn't work for me personally. I have tried this out and got a rejection right in my face. Therefore, I firmly believe men have to make the first move.
Issue #2
Women expect equal partnership but they still expect pampering.
Frankly, women are probably the most oxymoronic creatures in this world. I'm also speaking for myself! We expect to be taken seriously, our views to be heard etc. However, we do have softer natures where we will and can cry out of sheer frustration at times. This are also the most frustrating moments for men.
Scenario 1 - Gal goes boo hoo hoo over her problems. She expects her man to comfort her. Unfortunately, being male, he simply just doesn't know what to do at moments like this. He just offer her a tissue and hold her, lest he says the wrong thing that can detonate a nuclear bomb. Gal rebutts, "Why can't you say something to comfort me? You're so insensitive!" The innocent guy just 'kena' for keeping quiet.
Scenario 2 - Gal goes boo hoo hoo over her problems. She wails and bitches about her problems. 'Superman to the rescue' will simply run down a list of solutions to solve her problem. Gal wails even more. "All I wanted was for you to comfort me? Couldn't you do that? You're so insensitive!" The poor guy also 'kena' for trying to be Superman.
Why do you think I say women are oxymoronic? Name me another animal who does these things. I can be Wonder Woman at work but when it comes to relationships, I am a 'xiao nu ren'. I need to be pampered. I still expect my guys to pay for dinner, I like my dates to drive, I like men who a good dressers etc.
Not that I am materialistic... paying for dates indicates the guy's interest in you. After all, if he is so stingy on dates, I really can't imagine the kind of boyfriend, husband and father he will be. Paying for dates and taking care of my welfare shows me how good a provider he is. It's a strong point when it comes to marriage.
As for driving... I have little patience with public transport. I take it everyday and it frustrates me. When you are carrying heavy things, bus stops always seem further than they actually are. When you need a cab, they never seem to appear. This is why I am learning how to drive now. I am so getting a car when I get my license. If I have a car and a license, shouldn't my date have one? How romantic is it for me to drive him around... Again, I am not stingy. It's simply a question of taking care of my welfare and providing for me - a strong point when it comes to marriage.
Revelation Moment: This explains why I still single. I have not found a man like that, unlike my 'just married' buddy. Her hubby is the ultimate provider - financially and emotionally. I just haven't had the good fortune of finding a good provider, capable of being a good boyfriend, husband and father. I'm still holding out for the guy for me. I'm done with relationships that don't have any marriage destination. It's simply a waste of time. Until I find the guy, I contented to simply live my life, my way.
It's so strange that I finally got all my thoughts sorted out when I was in Cambodia. Looking at the lives of the people there, it's a reminder that life is just too short to be wasted. I want my life to have value every waking moment. To me, a wasted life is one that had no positive impact on anyone's life... I want to be able to look back on my life, look at the things I've done and be pleased that there was a purpose to my existence in this life.
to marriage
2 Saturdays ago, 23 June, my best friend finally got married... Watching her and her hubby together, I must say they were really a very good looking and sweet couple... Marital bliss was literally plastered on their faces...
The night before, I had dinner at her place and we had a manicure and pedicure party with her sisters. It was fun because it felt like I suddenly had 2 younger sisters... lolz... We were really disciplined. By ten, it was lights out for the bride and the mom. The rest of us were planning the 'sabo' sequence of events... afterall, what's a wedding without the 'sabo'...
The next morning, I was the early bird who got up early to prepare the 'sabo' stuff. To symbolise the 'sour, sweet, bitter and spiciness' of love, this was what we prepared:
Sour - lemon juice (so kind of us, rite?)
Sweet - sugar + water (it was diabetes inducing!)
Bitter - bittergourd juice (must drink to health...)
and the most deadly of all...
Spiciness - chilli padi + hot water
All these were placed in deceptively lovely shooters... lolz...
Not to forget the games we played like 'Find the Keys' (Stage 1: at the door), 'Limbo Rock' (Stage 2: at the hall), 'Drink the shooters' (Stage 3: at the corridor) and finally 'Sing a song' (Stage 4: outside the bridal room)
After that we went to the groom's place for tea ceremony before returning back to the bride's place for another round of tea ceremony. At about 2 pm, we headed for the hotel, Four Seasons. I am so impressed with their rooms... it is so absolutely gorgeous!
By 6. 30pm, it was time for the solemnisation of the marriage. When I saw them exchanged rings, I couldn't help tearing... tears of joy. When you have known someone for 11 years, it really feels like watching your sister get married. Especially knowing that he is a great guy, I am definitely happy for her.
During the reception, they had a champagne bar which was so classy... a real great way to begin the dinner. During the dinner, the food was good. I really enjoyed it very much. After the dinner, we went up to the room with the bride while the groom was dragged to KTV (decent ones!) by his 'pig & dog' friends. The dinner which they brought it for my friend was really good!
To everyone intending to hold their wedding ceremony, do go to Four Seasons. The decor is classy, the food is delicious, the bridal suite is gorgeous... what more can I say...
On the theme on marriage, here are some jokes about marriage.. enjoy!
Wife: What are you doing?
Husband : Nothing.
Wife : Nothing ...? You've been reading our marriage certificate for an hour !
Husband : I was looking for the expiry date.
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Wife : Do you want dinner?
Husband : Sure ! What are my choices ?
Wife : Yes and no.
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Wife: You always carry my photo in your wallet. Why ?
Hubby: When there is a problem, no matter how impossible, I look at your picture, and the problem disappears.
Wife: You see how miraculous and powerful I am for you ?
Hubby: Yes! I see your picture and ask myself --- what other problem can be greater than this one ?
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Girl: When we get married, I want to share all your worries, troubles and lighten your burden. Boy: It's very kind of you, darling, but I don't have any worries or troubles.
Girl: Well that's because we aren't married yet !
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Son: Mom, when I was on the bus with Dad this morning, he told me to give up my seat to a lady.
Mom: Well, you have done the right thing.
Son: But mom, I was sitting on daddy's lap.
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A newly married man asked his wife " Would you have married me if my father hadn't left me a fortune ? "
"Honey," the woman replied sweetly, " I'd have married you, NO MATTER WHO LEFT YOU A FORTUNE ! "
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Girl to her boyfriend: One kiss and I'll be yours forever.
The guy replies: Thanks for the early warning.
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A wife asked her husband: What do you like most in me, my pretty face or my sexy body?
He looked at her from head to toe and replied: I like your sense of humor.
The night before, I had dinner at her place and we had a manicure and pedicure party with her sisters. It was fun because it felt like I suddenly had 2 younger sisters... lolz... We were really disciplined. By ten, it was lights out for the bride and the mom. The rest of us were planning the 'sabo' sequence of events... afterall, what's a wedding without the 'sabo'...
The next morning, I was the early bird who got up early to prepare the 'sabo' stuff. To symbolise the 'sour, sweet, bitter and spiciness' of love, this was what we prepared:
Sour - lemon juice (so kind of us, rite?)
Sweet - sugar + water (it was diabetes inducing!)
Bitter - bittergourd juice (must drink to health...)
and the most deadly of all...
Spiciness - chilli padi + hot water
All these were placed in deceptively lovely shooters... lolz...
Not to forget the games we played like 'Find the Keys' (Stage 1: at the door), 'Limbo Rock' (Stage 2: at the hall), 'Drink the shooters' (Stage 3: at the corridor) and finally 'Sing a song' (Stage 4: outside the bridal room)
After that we went to the groom's place for tea ceremony before returning back to the bride's place for another round of tea ceremony. At about 2 pm, we headed for the hotel, Four Seasons. I am so impressed with their rooms... it is so absolutely gorgeous!
By 6. 30pm, it was time for the solemnisation of the marriage. When I saw them exchanged rings, I couldn't help tearing... tears of joy. When you have known someone for 11 years, it really feels like watching your sister get married. Especially knowing that he is a great guy, I am definitely happy for her.
During the reception, they had a champagne bar which was so classy... a real great way to begin the dinner. During the dinner, the food was good. I really enjoyed it very much. After the dinner, we went up to the room with the bride while the groom was dragged to KTV (decent ones!) by his 'pig & dog' friends. The dinner which they brought it for my friend was really good!
To everyone intending to hold their wedding ceremony, do go to Four Seasons. The decor is classy, the food is delicious, the bridal suite is gorgeous... what more can I say...
On the theme on marriage, here are some jokes about marriage.. enjoy!
Wife: What are you doing?
Husband : Nothing.
Wife : Nothing ...? You've been reading our marriage certificate for an hour !
Husband : I was looking for the expiry date.
--------------------------------------------------------------------
Wife : Do you want dinner?
Husband : Sure ! What are my choices ?
Wife : Yes and no.
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Wife: You always carry my photo in your wallet. Why ?
Hubby: When there is a problem, no matter how impossible, I look at your picture, and the problem disappears.
Wife: You see how miraculous and powerful I am for you ?
Hubby: Yes! I see your picture and ask myself --- what other problem can be greater than this one ?
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Girl: When we get married, I want to share all your worries, troubles and lighten your burden. Boy: It's very kind of you, darling, but I don't have any worries or troubles.
Girl: Well that's because we aren't married yet !
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Son: Mom, when I was on the bus with Dad this morning, he told me to give up my seat to a lady.
Mom: Well, you have done the right thing.
Son: But mom, I was sitting on daddy's lap.
--------------------------------------------------------------------
A newly married man asked his wife " Would you have married me if my father hadn't left me a fortune ? "
"Honey," the woman replied sweetly, " I'd have married you, NO MATTER WHO LEFT YOU A FORTUNE ! "
--------------------------------------------------------------------
Girl to her boyfriend: One kiss and I'll be yours forever.
The guy replies: Thanks for the early warning.
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A wife asked her husband: What do you like most in me, my pretty face or my sexy body?
He looked at her from head to toe and replied: I like your sense of humor.
Wednesday, June 27
Twelve Valuable Steps to Raise Your Self Esteem
As adults, we can choose the messages we accept or reject.
As Eleanor Roosevelt said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your permission."
"Building high self-esteem is a process, not something you can develop overnight," says Jeffrey Keller. "Yet, I believe every person has the capacity of high self-esteem. The question is, are you ready to make a commitment to increase your self-esteem?"
If your answer is yes, here are 12 steps to get you started:
Step One
Stop comparing yourself with other people.
There will always be some people who have more than you and some who have less. If you play the comparison game, you'll run into too many "opponents" you can't defeat.
Step Two
Stop putting yourself down.
You can't develop high self-esteem if you repeat negative phrases about yourself and your abilities. Whether speaking about your appearances, your career, your relationships, your financial situation, or any other aspects of your life, avoid self-deprecating comments.
Step Three
Accept all compliments with "thank you."
Ever received a compliment and replied," Oh, it was nothing." When you reject a compliment, the message you give yourself is that you are not worthy of praise. Respond to all compliments with a simple Thank You."
Step Four
Use affirmations to enhance your self-esteem.
On the back of a business card or small index card, write out a statement such as "I like and accept my self." or "I am valuable, lovable person and deserve the best in life." Carry the card with you. Repeat the statement several times during the day, especially at night before going to bed and after getting up in the morning. Whenever you say the affirmation, allow yourself to experience positive feelings about your statement.
Step Five
Take advantage of workshops, books and cassette tape programs on self-esteem.
Whatever material you allow to dominate mind will eventually take root and affect your behavior. If you watch negative television programs or read newspaper reports of murders and business rip off; you will grow cynical and pessimistic. Similarly, if you read books or listen to programs, that are positive in nature, you will take on these characteristics.
Step Six
Associate with positive, supportive people.
When you are surrounded by negative people who constantly put you and your ideas down, your self-esteem is lowered. On the other hand, when you are accepted and encouraged, you feel better about yourself in the best possible environment to raise your self-esteem.
Step Seven
Make a list of your past successes.
This doesn't necessarily have to consist of monumental accomplishments. It can include your "minor victories," like learning to skate, graduating from high school, receiving an award or promotion, reaching a business goal, etc. Read this list often. While reviewing it, close your eyes and recreate the feelings of satisfaction and joy you experienced when you first attained each success.
Step Eight
Make a list of your positive qualities.
Are you honest? Unselfish? Helpful? Creative? Be generous with yourself and write down at least 20 positive qualities. Again, it's important to review this list often. Most people dwell on their inadequacies and then wonder why their life isn't working out. Start focusing on your positive traits and you'll stand a much better chance of achieving what you wish to achieve.
Step Nine
Start giving more.
I'm not talking about money. Rather, I mean that you must begin to give more of yourself to those around your. When you do things for others, you are making a positive contribution and you begin to feel more valuable, which, in turn, lifts your spirits and raises your own self-esteem.
Step Ten
Get involved in work and activities you love.
It's hard to feel good about yourself if your days are spent in work you despise. Self-esteem flourishes when you are engaged in work and activities that you enjoy and make you feel valuable. Even if you can't explore alternative career options at the present time, you can still devote leisure time to hobbies and activities, which you find stimulating and enjoyable.
Step Eleven
Be true to yourself.
Live your own life - not the life others have decided is best for you. You'll never gain your own respect and feel good about yourself if you aren't leading the life you want to lead. If you're making decisions based on getting approval from friends and relatives, you aren't being true to yourself and your self-esteem is lowered.
Step Twelve
Take action!
You won't develop high self-esteem if you sit on the sidelines and back away from challenges. When you take action - regardless of the ensuing result - you feel better about yourself. When you fail to move forward because of fear and anxiety, you'll be frustrated and unhappy - and you will undoubtedly deal a damaging blow to your self-esteem.
The "real you" is a magnificent, unique being with enormous potential and capacity for experiencing love of yourself and extending love to others.
As your self-esteem grows, this "real you" emerges. You begin to take more risks and not be afraid of failure; you aren't as concerned with getting approval of others; your relationships are much more rewarding; you pursue activities that bring you joy and satisfaction; and you will make a positive contribution to the world.
Most importantly, high self esteem brings you peace of mind ... when you're alone, you truly appreciate the person you're with - yourself.
As Eleanor Roosevelt said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your permission."
"Building high self-esteem is a process, not something you can develop overnight," says Jeffrey Keller. "Yet, I believe every person has the capacity of high self-esteem. The question is, are you ready to make a commitment to increase your self-esteem?"
If your answer is yes, here are 12 steps to get you started:
Step One
Stop comparing yourself with other people.
There will always be some people who have more than you and some who have less. If you play the comparison game, you'll run into too many "opponents" you can't defeat.
Step Two
Stop putting yourself down.
You can't develop high self-esteem if you repeat negative phrases about yourself and your abilities. Whether speaking about your appearances, your career, your relationships, your financial situation, or any other aspects of your life, avoid self-deprecating comments.
Step Three
Accept all compliments with "thank you."
Ever received a compliment and replied," Oh, it was nothing." When you reject a compliment, the message you give yourself is that you are not worthy of praise. Respond to all compliments with a simple Thank You."
Step Four
Use affirmations to enhance your self-esteem.
On the back of a business card or small index card, write out a statement such as "I like and accept my self." or "I am valuable, lovable person and deserve the best in life." Carry the card with you. Repeat the statement several times during the day, especially at night before going to bed and after getting up in the morning. Whenever you say the affirmation, allow yourself to experience positive feelings about your statement.
Step Five
Take advantage of workshops, books and cassette tape programs on self-esteem.
Whatever material you allow to dominate mind will eventually take root and affect your behavior. If you watch negative television programs or read newspaper reports of murders and business rip off; you will grow cynical and pessimistic. Similarly, if you read books or listen to programs, that are positive in nature, you will take on these characteristics.
Step Six
Associate with positive, supportive people.
When you are surrounded by negative people who constantly put you and your ideas down, your self-esteem is lowered. On the other hand, when you are accepted and encouraged, you feel better about yourself in the best possible environment to raise your self-esteem.
Step Seven
Make a list of your past successes.
This doesn't necessarily have to consist of monumental accomplishments. It can include your "minor victories," like learning to skate, graduating from high school, receiving an award or promotion, reaching a business goal, etc. Read this list often. While reviewing it, close your eyes and recreate the feelings of satisfaction and joy you experienced when you first attained each success.
Step Eight
Make a list of your positive qualities.
Are you honest? Unselfish? Helpful? Creative? Be generous with yourself and write down at least 20 positive qualities. Again, it's important to review this list often. Most people dwell on their inadequacies and then wonder why their life isn't working out. Start focusing on your positive traits and you'll stand a much better chance of achieving what you wish to achieve.
Step Nine
Start giving more.
I'm not talking about money. Rather, I mean that you must begin to give more of yourself to those around your. When you do things for others, you are making a positive contribution and you begin to feel more valuable, which, in turn, lifts your spirits and raises your own self-esteem.
Step Ten
Get involved in work and activities you love.
It's hard to feel good about yourself if your days are spent in work you despise. Self-esteem flourishes when you are engaged in work and activities that you enjoy and make you feel valuable. Even if you can't explore alternative career options at the present time, you can still devote leisure time to hobbies and activities, which you find stimulating and enjoyable.
Step Eleven
Be true to yourself.
Live your own life - not the life others have decided is best for you. You'll never gain your own respect and feel good about yourself if you aren't leading the life you want to lead. If you're making decisions based on getting approval from friends and relatives, you aren't being true to yourself and your self-esteem is lowered.
Step Twelve
Take action!
You won't develop high self-esteem if you sit on the sidelines and back away from challenges. When you take action - regardless of the ensuing result - you feel better about yourself. When you fail to move forward because of fear and anxiety, you'll be frustrated and unhappy - and you will undoubtedly deal a damaging blow to your self-esteem.
The "real you" is a magnificent, unique being with enormous potential and capacity for experiencing love of yourself and extending love to others.
As your self-esteem grows, this "real you" emerges. You begin to take more risks and not be afraid of failure; you aren't as concerned with getting approval of others; your relationships are much more rewarding; you pursue activities that bring you joy and satisfaction; and you will make a positive contribution to the world.
Most importantly, high self esteem brings you peace of mind ... when you're alone, you truly appreciate the person you're with - yourself.
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